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A Thought on Fame

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Hello Friends!

Today I just want to share a quick thought that came to my mind last week. A little backstory - I was at an expo with my work that catered to those in the interior design & construction industry. These are industries that I know very little about, aside from what I've seen on HGTV. 

I was privileged enough that during my work at the expo I was able to listen in on some very interesting panels that discussed various topic within their realm of expertise. A lot of these panels were conducted by individuals highly regarded & even famous in their field, yet I have never heard of them. Which made me wonder what being "famous" really is. 

A thought dawned on me then - someone's fame is only validated in the context of those who surround them. So even though I was in the presence of people in high esteemed within their respective fields & known by many in those fields, the awe & excitement of being near them & hearing them speak was lost on me.

Have you ever experienced this kind of thing before? How did you feel about the experience?

Let me know in the comments!

♥︎ Phoebe 

How I Unwind | Winter Evening Routine

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Hello Friends!

Today is going to be a quick post, since I have been busy with work - like many people. But trust me I'm not complaining, I love my job! I think busy seasons can be great if you go into them with the right mindset. They can be times of significant personal growth that lends itself to making your slower seasons much more manageable. At least in my experience. That being said, when times get a bit hectic I need to find ways to unwind, so I've been trying out a few new methods recently that have been working out pretty well for me so far. 

One of the ways I like to unwind in the evenings is changing right into my pjs when I get home from work. Making that physical distinction that I'm now "off" by putting on warm pjs helps my mind shift much more quickly into relaxation mode. Versus my typical routine of only changing into my pjs right before I hop into bed. It's equally refreshing & comforting to change into fresh clothes as soon as I get home after a long day's work.

The next way that I unwind is watching Netflix. I know, I know! I'm not the only person to do this, but I do it a specific way that helps me unwind in the evenings. First off, I don't watch Netflix, or any sort of TV for that matter, in the evenings in my bedroom. If I want to watch something I'll either watch it in the living room or our upstairs loft. I also don't watch any "new" shows or movies. I re-watch programs that I know I enjoy - they are typically comedies. The reason why I don't watch something new, is because if I get tired or my mind lazily wanders that's okay. I'm not forcing myself to push through two more hours of a new show or movie because cliffhangers that I HAVE TO know resolutions of. If I feel tired, I'll just shut off the TV mid-episode or movie, since I won't be left wondering, "What's going to happen?".

Finally my favorite new way to unwind in the evenings is the rule I now follow - NO CELLPHONES allowed in my bedroom. I waste countless hours of my life scrolling with my thumbs. Checking this & that. Answering emails, comments, & other things. It's ridiculous! For me, I have never been "obsessed" with my phone. I don't mind not having it with me for a day or two. My issue is that I've created a bad habit surrounding it. I check it out of boredom, mostly. But my sense of time gets away from me when I do. So now I keep my phone downstairs or on my desk, I've been using my FitBit as my morning alarm, & have been reading every night if I'm not too tired. I'm going to spare you all the "sciencey stuff", but the lack of blue light (the kind of light emitted from phones & TVs) shining in my room in the evenings & nights, it's helped my body adjust much more easily from my "awake" time to "rest/asleep" time. 

I know this post didn't dive in too deep, but I hope you liked it! If you'd like me to expand on any of this, let me know in the comments & I'll do my best to answer your request. I'd love to know what you do to unwind too, so put that in the comment section as well! 

♥︎ Phoebe

My Take on New Year's Resolutions

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Happy New Year, friends!

In the spirit of fresh starts & goal setting, I decided to take the time to unpack my thoughts of the oh so popular "new year's resolutions". At this point in my life, I've experience enough new years to have a firm grasp of what I interpret the idea of resolutions to mean to me. Are you ready to hear what I think? Awesome! Let's get into it.

In Theory

Right of the bat I'll tell you that I love the idea of the NYR in theory. The ritual of looking back at what I've accomplished (or didn't accomplish) in the last full orbit of the earth is motivating to me. The ritual of dreaming of all the things you can do to make the next orbit even better is inspiring to me. The whole kit and caboodle screams optimism to me, which, if you don't know me, is practically my default setting. I just love how this tradition gives people the green light to dream big & acknowledge their potential.

In Reality

Now this is all well & good - the reminiscing & the dreaming. However the obstacles of daily life show themselves all too quickly to remind you of their optimism sucking existence. And this, of course, happens within the first week of January. I know deep down I want to wake up at 5am, kill my daily workouts, & get out of the office the same time every day. But who am I kidding? How can I expect any result other than feeling exhausted, sore, & frustrated when I start cold turkey? The reality is at about the day 3 mark, I've missed my 5am alarm, can barely walk up my stairs, & am leaving work 2 hours later than usual due to project deadlines. Is it any surprise that I quick my sky high dreams by day 14? Nah, me neither. 

In Revision

Thankfully I am graced with the seemingly basic ability to learn from my experiences in life. Through the course of my 25 earth orbits, I've created new year's resolutions & I haven't bothered. And I'll let you know, that I've changed throughout those years either way. Just obviously some change was more intentional than others. But I have learned that I can make intentional change. Meet my lofty goals & dreams. But the key environment that allowed their successes was time. I'm talking natural time here - not microwave zap time. Seasons of time that allow change to run its course. Little by little, day by day, so that you can take each step & grab each handhold. Time that allows you to get stronger, wiser, & more intelligent. Due to time's nature, it's not something you need to control, it take's care of ticking by all on its own. What you do need to control is your thoughts & actions. Choosing not to waiver in your decisions & putting in the work. Wiping the sweat off your brow & pushing forward even after you stumble. Trusting the process. This shift of exception caused me to revise what I initially thought NYR should be.

In Practice

So here I am in 2017 with my resolutions - some old dreams, some new dreams, my revised method of action. I still sat down with my pen & paper & wrote down my NYR. I still dreamed big for myself - maybe even bigger than last year actually. The difference now is my mind set. Will I try to implement all of my goal action plans at once? No. Will I stumble on those annoying optimism sucking obstacles? Of course. Will I give up? No. Will I reassess & tweak as I go? Definitely! Learning & adjusting as things run it's course. That is my new NYR plan of action. If you are a visual person like I am, you may appreciate this comparison - being in the midst of achieving your goals, new year's or otherwise, is like having braces. The orthodontist doesn't just yank your teeth into place all at once, the tighten your braces little by little over a span of a year or more. It's totally uncomfortable in the moments after each little adjustment. But after all is send & done, your pearly whites look awesome & all in line with your vision!

So here's to a new year of accomplishments (even if they don't quite take a year)!

What do you all think? Let me know your experiences with new year's resolution, I'd love to know!

♥︎ Phoebe